is there a way to make some1 who has me on his friend list not now when i last logged on?
You can set yourself as anonymous. The 'friend' will see you log on then immediately log off....so unless they are staring at the chat channel they will probably miss it. You won't appear as logged on in their friends list, but I think they can still send you an IM.
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