Yeh I find it rude as well and get a bit annoyed at it. If want me to join in something sent me a tell first. I may want to do it to. Random invites just out of nowhere annoy and sometimes interrupt me when trying do do other stuff. Always polite to ask first. And I am more likely to decline if I am getting random invite with no idea who it is inviting me or why.
A little explanation before hand may actually help get people :P Even if it's just one line. "hey you want to join to do (whatever it is)?"
On the other hand sometimes that may be a clue to me that maybe their someone I don't want to group with anyways :P
I usually accept but then ask what their goal is. If I don't get an answer, I leave.
Same here actually. I occasionally I will accept and ask what need we are doing or what need me for. I've had times I get no answer and they seem just be goofing off or not even saying anything at all so I leave.
If it's obvious that another player and I are tripping over each other for the same mobs and the person shoots out a quick blind invite, then I'll generally accept the invitation and then ask what they're up to. Especially in new or crowded areas, it's only polite to offer to group up rather than competing for no reason.
But I do think that the polite approach is to ask first, and if it isn't a situation where it's very clear why they are inviting, then I don't accept without some kind of greeting and explanation. I play for mostly social reasons, so if someone can't be bothered to talk to me, I'm probably not terribly interested in spending time with them.
No one wants blind invite in the moors. Like Bigslick said it's disrupting and on top of that many times the said person is not even close to you so you end up losing out on renown/infamy. Send me tells first to see if I want to group or else I'm declining the invite right away.
It's also extremely rude to keep resending invites, if you've already been declined once, why try it again... try sending a tell to let me know what your goal is but by this time you've probably already annoyed me and I'll be saying no anyways.
Unless I can see that the person is doing pretty much the same quest/deed as me, I'll decline. I don't have tells turned off and I usually have all the regional channels turned on. If you want help, ask, and if I'm not busy I'll usually help (unless you're asking me to solo a quest or instance for you or something).
If there like just urself and a other freep in the moors vs like 5 other creeps and u keep going back for more fights then its best to team up but not blind invite cause thats creepy but if u both go into do a OC zerg casue there turtling in there and u not in a fellow then i rekon its alright to be randomly invited to fellow just for heals and to be able to run back out and not die.
I got blind invited by Sparlight's 4-year old boy the other day on creepside... it was cute and I made an exception <3.
At first I didn't realize it was him and declined. Didn't stay grouped with him long as I had to log .
When he gets older I will have to instruct him on the "Way of Agonizing Maul" and "Spam Brute Claws" on his dad if he ever rolls a warg.
I will also have to instruct him on the "Way of the Rez Circle respawn" after getting hit by his dad's 1st age stone.
Last edited by 87_Suited; Apr 10 2012 at 05:22 PM.
Personally, it irritates me no end. Would it really kill you to send me a tell first?
Only exception to this is, as many previous posters have said, if there's a couple of us tripping over each other, competing for mobs when we're clearly doing the same quests. If I get a tell in that scenario, it's pretty obvious why they've done so.
Originally Posted by cmash
It's also extremely rude to keep resending invites, if you've already been declined once, why try it again.
I had an episode once (ages ago) where I was in the Bree Auction Hall when I got invite-spammed SEVEN times by this one person. After I'd declined for the 5th time, I sent him a tell saying 'What part of 'no' do you not understand?' ... only to be invited to party again. Seriously? He'd been spamming the LFF for others to join his GB run for a while too, so the fact I hadn't responded to any of that, and I'd declined his invites that many times should have been a not-so-subtle hint that I wasn't interested. Talk about slow learner. To aid his education, I put him on my ignore list after that.
And ditto for spar requests. If I've declined you twice, I'm not likely to change my mind on the 3rd, 4th, 5th, etc invitation.
After proofreading that (yes, it does happen!), I sound like a right grump! LOL. I'm not. Truly. Send me a tell asking me to join your group and, if I'm able, I'll happily help you out. But a blind invite from someone I don't know will be outright declined.
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